Turn the change into a rhythm you keep on your own.
3 lessons · 6 tools · 7 daily prompts
Lesson 1 · 3-minute read
Repeat What Helps
New responses get stronger with practice. Do not add anything new. Just repeat.
Show me how
Marcus keeps the same plan: when he feels angry at a text, he waits 10 minutes. Same action. Same situation. He is not trying to fix every conflict.
Your small action: Repeat your action whenever a suitable chance comes up. Mark each time.
Easier option: If no chance comes up, rehearse it once.
Lesson 2 · 3-minute read
Start Again
You will slip back sometimes. Everyone does. A slip is information, not failure. What matters is starting again.
Show me how
Marcus sends an angry text before he remembers to wait. Instead of quitting, he asks: “What happened? I was tired and rushed. Next time, I’ll put my phone down first.”
Your small action: Write your restart plan: “What happened: ___. What made it hard: ___. My next small step: ___.”
Easier option: Name just your next small step.
Lesson 3 · 3-minute read
Make Your Keep-Going Plan
You have noticed a pattern, chosen a new response, and practiced it. Now make a plan to keep it going on your own.
Show me how
Marcus’s plan: keep the 10-minute pause, review it every Sunday, and pick one new pattern to work on when he is ready.
Your small action: Fill in your keep-going plan: the life you are working toward, the action you will keep practicing, when you will practice, your easier backup version, how you will track it, when you will review, and who can support you.
Easier option: Write just the action and your review day.